My Truth About Lying

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My Truth About Lying

I woke up this morning with the brain in its “full on position”, again, working with the analysis of life’s quandaries.  This morning it was on lying. 

So naturally I thought; I am not a liar. As if in some small way I could separate the person from the deed.  Then the voice inside me said; you don’t lie… until you do. 

So I had to explore, why do I lie?  In fact it is in my nature to be quite truthful and forthcoming, so why do I do this? 

My mind wonders through society, situations then hits on someone I have lied to.  Why did I do this?  Why did I lie to them? I begin to realize that I lied to them and for that matter, all the reasons I lie; is that I want you to love me or I want you to see me in an idealized light.  I am afraid that if you see “me” well, you know that thought.

 In every way for me it is about power.  I feel powerless (afraid, unsure) and in some very small way the lie keeps me powerful, keeps me safe.  But can simple words keep me safe?  And in that same vein, can words bring me actual harm?  No, not the implied meaning of these words, but the letters within the words themselves?  Of course that sounds silly; as I have never heard of an attack by the letter M.  (Z maybe and you had better watch out for that Q, it is always followed by the U,  J but I digress). 

I have now come to understand that: lies are the truth wrapped in a different color paper.  Maybe it’s the truth I want so desperately to believe, maybe it’s the truth in this moment that I think I need, to gain your or even my own approval, doesn’t matter.  For in that moment, for that very second, it was true. My words reflected my truth: I was afraid. I spoke the words of fear and that fear was my truth. Whatever came out of my mouth, they are irrelevant as they began in the truth of that instant emotion.

My life’s purpose has always been (now is that really true?)  continuing on, that I live authentically.   I used to believe that authentic living meant to be truthful to the moment.  I have now come to a simpler place; just to be the moment, alive to it, within it.  Not separate from it in truth or lies, simply within, lung breathing, heart pumping no more and no less.

It is from this vantage point that I have found for me both truth and lies are all the same; exactly as is dark and light, things just seen from different perspectives.  So to me lies are truth wrapped in different color paper.  Whether or not I choose to open them (share my lies with you) or not is of no consequence for they are perfect in their own way. So will I lie again? No, of course not, until I do.  And so it goes lung breathing, heart pumping; alive.

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Bonnie Canal

Bonnie Canal, MBCP is an internationally recognized leader in both community and business resilience innovations and strategies. This is achieved by engaging the entire business’s entire organization and with a keen focus on the key leadership personnel.Bonnie has over 30 years’ experience the Information Technology Sector with the last 12 specializing in Business Resilience.

Bonnie was inducted into the Order of the Sword & Shield National Honor Society at St. John’s University, New York City for her work in Business Resilience.

Bonnie is Past Chair of the Association of Contingency Planners where she served for 6 years.

She is a proud native of New Orleans and has experienced what she calls, “The Katrina, Rita, Ike, Gustav, and BP Oil Spill” disasters first hand. She has had to learn how being resilience leaders and businesses to increased performance, achieve stronger relationships, and build mental toughness that we all need in today’s ever increasing busy world.
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